This New Year, how are you going to start your day as Mom or Dad?
2014 has been a year of conviction and changes for me as a parent.
As my kids get older, I am growing ever more conscious of the example I am setting for them, particularly in the area of my phone. I’m not just talking about while driving, during dinner or family time, or while helping them with homework. Those are all real concerns for sure.
However, what hit me the hardest was how my cell phone was negatively impacting the start of my day.
How easy it is to turn off the alarm on my phone and start checking e-mail and Facebook.
Before I knew it, I was running late for my day and in a grumpy mood because of all the things that had bombarded me before I even got out of bed!
Anyone with me?
I had always used the excuse of not being a morning person to put off my devotional time until later in the day. Yet, here I was, regularly devoting a good 15 minutes to a small rectangular metal box.
And we mock those days-of-old idol worshippers!
When discussing electronic limits for our kids, a friend of mine shared that they have a non-electronic rule for the first hour they are awake. What a wise pattern to establish that will serve her children well both now and later!
It was important for her to explain to them (and sometimes still remind them), that the reason for this family guideline isn’t that she’s just a “mean” mom restricting their fun! Rather, it’s to help them remember the principle of…
This is the day the Lord has made. We will rejoice and be glad in it.
Psalm 118:24
Hmmmm…we just read the words “rejoice” and “glad,” didn’t we?
Sounds like fun to me…And it is!
Starting the day out with God’s Word and talking with Him is uplifting, encouraging, empowering, and a blessing….pretty much everything my previous routine of e-mail and Facebook is NOT!
So, fellow parents, as we think about this coming year, let’s consider how our daily patterns are impacting our lives and our children’s. For me, that means more of putting down the iPhone after turning off the alarm and picking up my Bible.
How about you?
A resource that has greatly helped my OCD self is Hands Free Mama: A Guide to Putting Down the Phone, Burning the To-Do List, and Letting Go of Perfection to Grasp What Really Matters! Anyone else feel like the author had you in mind with that subtitle? I enjoyed taking my time on this book, only reading a chapter a week. That helped the principles soak in and give me time to practice before moving on.
Disclaimer: Since this goes to such a broad audience and many of y’all don’t know me personally, I feel it’s important to add a couple of points. While I share what I regularly strive for, I am not legalistic about any of this. Some days I have to check my e-mail first thing. Some days (and pretty much every Saturday morning) the tv comes on first thing for the kids. Some days I enjoy putting off my time with Lord because I know I have a great window of time later in the day. Some days I regretfully don’t make time for the Lord. You get the idea. Life happens. This blog is always supposed to be non-guilt and non-ritualism inducing from an imperfect parent (me!) who enjoys sharing what she’s learned with others (you!) in hopes that it helps in some way! To God be the glory if it does!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
Looking for a new way to get in the Word with your kids this year?
Or, want a way to pray for your kids about specific issues using God’s Word?
Consider Parenting with Scripture: A Topical Guide for Teachable Moments as a topical family devotional guide or topical parenting prayer guide.
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